Sunday, March 16, 2014

The New Normal - Notes from February

A week of  flurries and pleasant sub-zero weather in Aurora as Mom and Dad spend a recovery week at Jaime and Matt's house.
Well Neiva, hopefully the Olympics will put on a better show than the Broncos did in the Super Bowl.
A bit of a downhill assist - true - but Neiva rolls onto her tummy, to the right.
Neiva gets her legs involved with some vigorous horizontal ladder climbing.
Dad is amazed at how quickly his little girl grows. Neiva now kicks him in the gut when she sprawls out on his lap. Or as Jaime says, the balls.
The bassinet may be reaching the end of its function as Neiva oftens wakes herself up by thrashing against its walls.
That would have been a toothy grin, if Neiva had any teeth.
After work, Neiva tells Dad about her day of doing big things. I dirtied three outfits, took a long afternoon nap with Mom, and went on a two hour dinner marathon, she says.
Neiva turns her head to follow her Mom's voice/her food supply.
Dad gets a bit lost in the woods trying to explain the life cycle of salmon. Luckily, Neiva gives him a free pass.
Fighting back a smile, Mom waves her finger. "No laughing," she orders. "It hurts!" Dad and Neiva do their best to comply, but it is a real struggle.
At work, Dad receives a text: "Neiva pooped full blown 4 times + the original dirty diaper when Jaime just changed her!! What a champ."
Mom and Dad never imagined it would be this hard, this painful. But in the peaceful blue light of a cold winter dusk, with Neiva sleeping between them in bed, they find that fleeting moment. Despite what life has thrown at them recently, all feels right with the world.
Dad and Neiva sneak away to the bedroom to laugh.
Milk Monster! Fierce!
Dad comes in from the cold after a day's work. "Wow, Neiva...this pork tenderloin smells great! Another afternoon slaving away in the kitchen, eh?" The week has also included chicken tortilla casserole, Italian lasagna, fresh fruit and veggies, homemade pizza and southwest chicken and rice. (Thanks Everyone!)
Mom gets to take a shower, all by herself. Yay!
At her one month appointment, Neiva measures in at 8 lbs and 13.5 ounces! Mom and Dad always knew that any child of theirs would surely eat them out of house and home.
Her height and weight are average, but Neiva's head is in the 75% percentile!
Fifteen days after the Ordeal began, Dad's Fighter Girl finally makes it back home (for the weekend)!
Neiva sounds a bit like Snuffalufaguss as she picks up her first cold.
Neiva grows hockey hair in support of Team USA.
Neiva is moderately amused, Dad much more so, as he surrounds her with a whole menagerie of stuffed animals to play with.
Raffi Dance Party in the living room!
After a sleepless night, Dad zonks out on his office floor over the lunch hour...and into the next as he sleeps through his alarm.
Mom and Neiva spend the whole afternoon alone together!  Yay!
In retrospect, quite impressive is the energy and endurance required to flail and wail for three hours straight last night. Dad awakes with another headache and goes to work for strategic planning.
Mom thinks Howard looks a tad evil but Neiva remains quite curious about this strange duck.
After a second week in Aurora, Neiva finally returns to her favorite place in the whole wide world: that is, her changing table in Golden.
The Wahlins send Neiva a Valentine. "I really really really can't wait to meet you," writes cousin Kayla.
Neiva is over her cold, hopefully, and sleeps like a dream.
"Do you have any other deposits to make into this account, Neiva?" Dad asks.
Neiva demonstrates how the phrase "nursing a beer" originated.
Dad is very jealous of Neiva's animal print footsie pjs - especially the blue lions.
Who knew that burping a strong independent baby was such a core workout?
"I am expecting the next delivery to arrive soon," asserts Dad.
"Sometimes she reminds me of a frog." Mom pauses. "But in a good, cute way."
Mom cannot quite decide if it would be better for Neiva to have matching bald spots, or to remain as is, asymmetrical.
Sorry, Neiva. You are one dirty kid. Finally time for a bath!
Breaking the rules, Mom picks up Neiva and dances with her.
Most nights Neiva drifts off to sleep peacefully. Last night was a real chess match, however.
Neiva fills her pants, reminding Dad of adventurous crossings of glacial moraines in Alaska. The sound, that is.
Dad goes in for an Eskimo kiss; Neiva seizes the opportunity to eat his nose.
Wandering around blindly at an early morning feeding, Dad resigns himself to the fact that he cannot find his glasses. Oh wait, there they are, on Mom's face.
Dad soldiers on with his informational monologue as Neiva hits the highest registry of her banshee scream. We may need to revisit the unit on wood working.
Mom starts to spend some half days alone with Neiva. The first one Neiva sleeps eats sleeps, easy peasy. The second one includes four diaper changes in three hours, and only twenty minutes of sleep outside of mom’s arms. What will today bring?
A session of Zach Gill at the changing table seems to entertain Neiva today. But now she sleeps on the couch, when she needs to eat soon!
Some nicknames so far: Neivabean, sweet pea, honey bunches, milk monster, wiggly worm, one-eyed wild, bright eyes.
Fiery Neiva Wild shows her roar, for no apparent reason. The next morning Sweet Neiva Wild chills in bed with a wet diaper, need for burping and big smiles. Mom is confused.
Dad works his shoulders hucking his daughter in her her carseat all about Anschutz Medical Campus. A million people stop to say hi to Neiva. None of whom we know.
Neiva takes a liking to long soaks in the kitchen sink.
Don't think for a second that you can pull the wool over Neiva's big, bright and discerning eyes.
Kicking away on her changing table, Neiva takes in the story of another strong and wild girl - Pippi Longstocking.
Will wonders ever cease? The Doc recommends treating Neiva's infection by blasting some of Mom's milk into her eyeball.
According to Mom, patience is Dad's superpower.
Neiva captains the ship on the first official family hike - the half mile Bluebird Meadow Loop at Alderfer Three Sisters.
An upside of being up multiple times in the middle of the night? More opportunities for Dad to eat a bowl of cereal.
Neiva takes a nap between Mom and Dad. Well, that was the idea anyway. Instead she tickles Dad in the armpit and bops Mom in the nose. "Come on guys!"
Sleeping through the science, Neiva attends a thesis defense.
Next time we come to the Doctor's office Dad will bring a donation box to set before the paparazzi. Need to start the college fund!
Look, just because Neiva is wearing brown and white does not mean you should assume she is a boy. Would a boy wear jeggings? (Which are looking much better now that Neiva is filling out.)
Neiva spins a 180 during tummy time.
Dad tucks Neiva into bed. Then he tucks Mom into bed. Who is going to tuck Dad in?
Mom and Neiva get a stroller for Mom’s 31st birthday, and bring it to the mall for a trial run with Jaime. They pick up a St. Patrick’s Day onesie, and rock the cup holder with a salted caramel malt from Smashburger.
Mom and Dad get out for their first meal alone in 6 weeks for Mom’s birthday.  Grappa - escargot and duck for Dad, salad and filet for Mom, and a live pianist!
Neiva and mom take their first walk just the two of them with the stroller, on their first full day together alone (almost 7 weeks old!).  
Sun rays and the winter breeze soothe Neiva as she sticks her chin out and squints her eyes.
Dad hauls Neiva for laps around the apartment as his exercise routine.
Neiva's moods shift more abruptly than the Colorado weather.
Neiva and Dad work on some vocabulary, including amphibian, spritely, and serendipitous.

The Roller Coaster - Notes from Weeks 2 and 3

1/18
Dad is not a huge fan of the color (and its cultural underpinnings), but he admits her pink sleeper is a nice looking compliment to Neiva's red Rumparoos. Our little valentine.
Mom and Neiva just flow with it: side lying feeding is a great success. Dialed in!
The diapers are neatly stacked, laundering and writing is apace, the kitchen is cleaner than it has been in quite some time, the fridge is full with leftovers, time for running and yoga, happy to see visitors, baby sleeping through most of the night. It seems too perfect.
After a few early fumbles, Dad is now crushing it with the pre-folds.
"No falling asleep at the wheel, Neiva!" Mom says.
Time for a bath! Did we wash out some of her hair color? Neiva's hair started dark brown. Mom thinks it is lightening a bit with a hint of red. Her eyes are slate, a shade darker than Dad's ice water gray.
Dad keeps true to his word, and makes Mom carmel rolls to celebrate one week. Dad is very celebratory and eats six rolls.
Neiva is a true Buddha baby, teaching Mom and Dad about non-attachment (to schedules, to routines, to that nicely wrapped diaper Dad just put on).
It is 3PM. Mom and Dad eat breakfast and have a serious conversation about whether or not they brushed their teeth yet today. But they are so happy.
Mom's favorite time is sleepy awake baby after feeding.
Grandma and Grandpa O fly in from Minnesota to meet Little Miss Wild and help out Mom and Dad with some cooking and cleaning.
Grandma O is fascinated with Neiva's long little feet. She brings Neiva sweaters and dresses (that Mom wore when she was little.)
Grandpa O is the gentlest burper yet, but his soft touch yields results. He would love to bring Neiva to her first day of school.
Mom and Dad are by now well aware of Neiva's Halo Effect. Everyone that holds her soon glow themselves with happiness.


1/19
The family sleeps peacefully under the soft blue glow of icicle lights. All is quiet with feedings at 9:00 PM, 1:00 and 5:30 AM.
Dad is on it today as he brushes his teeth before the sun rises. In fairness, he probably forgot to brush his teeth last night.
At the early morning feeding, Neiva moves slow and gracefully like a sloth, Mom notes. We really like sloths.
Dad knows something is up when there is nary a trace in Neiva's diaper after four hours. He applies a little fresh air and time, then the awaited blast. Like a geyser, a pause before the the main event. The shower curtain is now going into the washing machine. A new distance record.
Mom has left over Qdoba and a banana for breakfast.
Neiva's umbilical cord is drying out and looks like a fig newton.
Putting a onesie on a newborn is like paddling whitewater. You must work with the natural flow of movement and forces. Do not think that you can control or overpower Flow. Work within it.
Neiva is a beautiful girl, yes. But Mom and Dad also tell her that she is curious, and patient, and strong, and intriguing.
Dad feels a tinge of discontent dressing Neiva in overtly "girlie" clothes because she is much more than just a pretty face.
Mom is excited to see her abs returning. She is sure to point these out to Dad, who agrees that she is looking great!
Dad and Neiva discuss the Bible while sitting in the steamy bathroom to clear out her nostrils. Dad tries to present a fair overview of different perspectives but undoubtedly is progressive in his views. For the moment, Neiva plays her cards close to her chest.
The consensus is that Neiva has the O'Brien chin and the Abfalter noise. She gets her radiance from Mom, says Dad.
Mom loads Neiva into the Boba Wrap and goes for a hike along the base of South Table Mountain with Dad and Grandma and Grandpa O. Neiva insists on arcing her head back to bask in the sun.
Neiva has long strong fingers - perfect for playing the piano and rock climbing!
Aunt Lisa and the Wahlin cousins are excited to hear more detail and ask questions. How big is Neiva? Does she like to bounce? What does she eat? How did you come up with her middle name?
Dad really enjoys a turn with the Boba. He and Neiva wash dishes and get some work done on the computer.
Neiva has a bit of the sniffles and indigestion, having a rougher time getting to sleep. But Mom and Dad work together to get her down.


1/20
Neiva seems back on pace after a good long sleep.
Dad checks a few work e-mails in the middle of the night in between a diaper change and burping while Neiva feeds.
Mom appreciates that the long nights of January make it easier catch sleep when there is time.
Dad lays in bed and listens to Mom breathing on his right and his Daughter breathing on his left.
That may or may not have been a fleeting smile, but it sure looks like one to Mom and Dad.
Dad and Neiva steam out their nostrils at the edge of the shower and cheer on Mom as she takes off her steri-strips.
Neiva discovers that her hand is nice for chewing on.
Neiva tries on her ski hat that Dad first purchased back in 2009. It will be perfect for March snowstorms.
Neiva takes to signaling her hunger by woodpeckering Mom's shoulder.
Grandpa O reads The Snowy Day to Neiva, fitting as they both wear snowflake sweaters.
The official line is lower transverse unable to progress. After a week of observation, Mom's theory is Excited Leg Kicking Touchdown Pose with Strong Neck Arch. Neiva was just looking for the light!
Neiva is sleepy most of the afternoon; Grandma O believes the smell of roast simmering in the slow cooker is the cause.
We look through Neiva's baby book. Her long fingers and feet, O'Brien chin and Abfalter nose are now obvious in her 12 and 20 week ultrasounds.
After a thorough reading of the grandparent chapter of the Mayo Clinic guide, Grandma O recites all the best practices.
Mom and Dad have a straight-forward play book: right football, right cross, left football, left cross, side.
A busy day with long sleeps and hearty meals for Neiva. Mom believes she is on a growth spurt.
"Do I ever tell how much I love you?" Dad asks Neiva...for the 100th time.
It is hard to believe that Neiva is only nine days old. It feels like Mom and Dad have known her for much longer.


1/21/14
You know it is a good meal when you nearly get milk in your eyeball.
Dad's leaving on a jet train. He knows that he'll be back again. Neiva, he hates to go (back to work).
Dad's co-workers at CCD ooh and ahh as he proudly shows off his Week One Slideshow.
Neiva's cord falls off at ten days (mysteriously disappearing somewhere in her clothes for an hour). Mom likes to peak at her cute little belly button, thinking it will be an innie.
Dad asks Mom to text a picture update of Neiva. Half an hour later he requests another. With enough accomplished, he leaves work at noon!
At work, Dad realizes that he is humming Baby Beluga.
Mom goes out for some fresh air,  and Dad and Neiva enjoy their first alone time. They doze in the arm chair, warmed by the afternoon sun.
Dad describes the ocean to Neiva. It makes you feel so small, he says, which makes you realize how wide and wonderful life truly is. It is the color of your teale Rumparoos, he adds.
Under eight pounds, it is easy to underestimate this little power house.
During tummy time, Neiva gets up on her haunches and drives her forehead into the carpet. Mom and Dad are much more excited about this development than Neiva.
Mom continues to recover quickly. It hurts less to laugh (which is a good thing when you live with Dad).
Yay Neiva! Good burp.
Dad swaddles Neiva (not her right arm of course); Mom tops her off. Sweet dreams!


1/22/14
3:42 AM and all is right with the world.
Mom encourages Neiva's flatulence by holding Dad up as an example: a mighty wind.
"Don't be sad; it's Dad!" Thanks for the measure of support, Mom.
"Can you stick your nose down there and check her diaper? It smells like a bit of a barnyard from up here." Sure, Mom.
After a short day in the office, Dad rushes home to take care of Mom and Neiva.
The Infant Tylenol ad features zero dads. Meanwhile, Dad rocks Neiva in his lap while checking work e-mail on his iPad, reviewing variance reports on his desktop, and taking care of Mom during her rough day. Time to get with the millennium, Tylenol.
Neiva naps like a champ in the Boba carrier while Dad calls 911 and struggles to keep Mom conscious. Scary! The paramedics arrive and take care of Mom.
Dad and Neiva cannot find Mom at first in the ER. "Yes I know I am at the right place. I followed the ambulance here, which just pulled up two minutes ago." "Okay. Let's wait five minutes to see if she shows up in our system." Really?!? (The hospital finally realizes it mistake in listing the last name as Erickson.)
Dad relaxes when they finally find Mom, and she is back to her normal self with her blood pressure and breathing stabilizing.
Mom is an all-star, breastfeeding Neiva in the ER.
The ER Doc assumes Neiva is a he because of her blue monster shirt. Neiva abruptly awakes from her nap to howl in protest, then goes right back to sleep.  That's our girl, Neiva!
Neiva senses that Mom and Dad need her to take care of herself during the rough patch. She stays calm and sleeps all morning and  afternoon.  
"This fragile life we live is not ours to keep but ours to give. What in the world am I going to do should anything happen to you?"


1/23/14
"Don't worry about a thing. Every little thing is going to be alright."
Dad and Neiva cuddle Mom from both sides long into the morning to love her back to good health. It helps Dad feel much better, too.
Mom and Neiva talk to Great Grandad on the phone. He sends all of his love.
Snow outside the window prompts Mom to put Neiva in her snowsuit. Way too big but adorable, Neiva gets frustrated and Dad takes pictures.
Jaime stops by to support Mom (and Dad).
Neiva rediscovers that she can put her hand to her mouth and chew on it.
Wow Neiva, how does such a little person produce such an impressive green booger? Pardon your Dad as he takes some more pictures.
The third bath is still not the charm. Neiva shows Dad the growing strength of her lungs.
With some fresh snow and setting sun, it is time for a father-daughter walk. Neiva snuggles in for a snooze, wrapped under Dad's hoodie and puffy jacket.
Pizza Hut Party as a toast to life: to Neiva's new life, to Jenean's continued life, and to Great Granddad's life well lived!
It hurts when Mom laughs; quit it Dad!


1/24/14
"Sun comes up and we start again. It's all here today. All you have to say is be here now."
Neiva moves her arms like a windmill on the Minnesota plains. Or, like a dance machine.
Dad army crawls under the bassinet.
At her two week wellness check, Neiva weighs 7 pounds 13 ounces and measures 21 inches! Neiva is such a good eater that Dr. Francine tells Mom and Dad to let her sleep as long as she wants at night between meals.
Content with her solid performance report, Neiva kicks back and fills up her pants at the end of her wellness check. It sounds like the gurgling mud pots of Yellowstone.
The jeggings are not quite what Mom pictured.
Mom's check up gives her the green light and reassurance that everything is going to be okay.
The cats Bailey and Tanner take a passing interest in Neiva.
Neiva sleeps most of the afternoon; Grandma and Grandpa A love to snuggle her. And to show her the giant singing duck they brought her.
Grandpa A treats the family to Chinese. Neiva's fortune: A vacation to sunny shores is soon in store for you. Where are you going, Neiva? And are you taking Mom and Dad with you?


January 25, 2014
"It's now always easy, and sometimes life can be deceiving. But it's ways better together."
Another bluebird day along the Front Range. Dad dreams of teaching Neiva how to ski.
Welcome to Dad's Garage. Our premium services include diapering and laundering, burping, dancing, and clothing selection with style. We offer packages for Mom, too. Hugs and kisses complimentary with each visit. Please come again.
Drop your right shoulder, straighten your right leg and push your heel back, then drive your left shoulder and knee over and to the right. That is how you roll, Dad coaches.
Forget the Vitamin D drops, let's find something real. The morning sun feels warm on the skin and calms Neiva down.
Mom gets a well deserved nap as Dad eats roast for breakfast while Neiva lounges in his lap and Grandma and Grandpa A stroll on the mesa.
Dad temporarily loses focus at the moment of a massive milk spit up. "Whoa! Oh my..." But he quickly gets his game together. "Good job, Neiva! Good job. Yay!"
"It's crazy that we made this little human being," muses Mom. We are still not quite sure where you came from.
Always in between snows in Golden. Dad looks forward to better weather as he scopes out beginner sledding options in the backyard on a 50 degree afternoon.
Dad sends Jenean on a mandatory 90 minute mom-vacation. Grandpa and Grandma A watch over Neiva and Dad exercises.
Dad feeds Neiva her first bottle of breastmilk.


Week Three
Oh my, Dad fireman carries Mom down the stairs and lays her in the back of the Subaru. A long stressful evening in the ER but Mom fights through it like a champ.
Mom is tough as nails. Dad loves her so much.
Mason shares some of his milk supply with Neiva to help out.
"Wow look at those bright eyes!" says Room Service. "She is only two weeks?!? What the heck are you feeding her?"
Mom chills in the ICU and watches X Games  Superpipe.
Jaime comes to stay with Mom and Dad in the hospital as Grandma and Grandpa A extend their stay a week to watch Neiva.
After losing more than her entire blood supply, two more surgeries, an infection, and six days in the hospital, a worn out but resilient Mom leaves the hospital and cautiously hopes to not return. Scary.
Dad feels like he too has been through the wringer, but now it is a new week.
Through all the struggles, Mom never missed a beat with pumping milk for Neiva Bean. Dang, that is nothing short of superhero.
There is at least one good thing from all of this: Mom and Dad truly realize how many people love and care for them, from family to friends to coworkers to doctors to nurses.
"Did I ever tell you how much I love your Mom?" Dad asks Neiva...for the 100th time.


In retrospect, it seems like a Chinese Fortune Cookie could hardly be more inaccurate.

Friday, January 17, 2014

Sweet Neiva Wild - Notes from Week One

Saturday, January 11
Mom and Dad lounge in bed and relax on a Saturday morning. It is seasonally warm in Golden, Colorado with plenty of wind and sun. Snow falling in the mountains; they make plans to go snowshoeing.

Mom experiences warm-up contractions on and off during the previous week. Her contractions return around 8:00 AM and quickly build in intensity and frequency. Mom and Dad labor at home until 1:30. Mom has seven contractions in the car and one more against a tree at the front door of the hospital. Ouch!

Mom draws inside herself to work through the longest and strongest contractions of transition. Dad rubs her back with counterpressure, keeps her hydrated, and assists Mom's breathing. She is pure toughness and focus!

After nearly five hours of pushing (in seven different positions), the Little Bugger does not want to budge an inch. At this point, Mom and Dad decide that an unplanned c-section is best for the health and safety of the baby.

Dad gets to be at Mom's side during the surgery. A few minutes pass, then a wail! Dad looks behind the curtain, and is a bit surprised. "It's Neiva, Jenean! It's Neiva!"

Neiva quickly turns from purple to pink. Dad finds the whole scene quite surreal! She is cleaned off and scores an 8 and 9 on her Apgar. Soon she is in Mom's arms, skin to skin. Then Dad gets to hold her by Mom's side. Neiva is completely calm and alert, her big bright eyes immediately melting Mom and Dad's heart.

The official line: Neiva Wild O'Brien is born at 10:45 PM on Saturday January 11. She weighs 7 pounds 7.4 ounces and measures 19 1/4 inches. And the winner of the Little Bugger Sweepstakes is...Grandpa Jim!

Neiva means "Radiant" in Gaelic and "Snow" in Latin - peace, light, and beauty. Mom and Dad hope that Neiva's life is filled with the freedom and adventure of the Wild. She is loved to the moon and back.

We call Neiva's grandparents in the early hours of the morning to tell them the good news!

Sunday, January 12
Mom is a little sore from surgery but overall feeling better than expected. A new baby in your arms is the best medicine.

Both of our amazing labor nurses Gina and Jeannie stop by to see little Neiva and say how impressed they were by Mom's effort and Dad's support during labor. "It is just not right to work so hard for so long and then end up with a c section," they say. But all is well that ends well.

Mom and Dad lounge and nap and snack throughout the day; Neiva does the same. We call Aunt Lisa and Uncle Eric and Uncle Sam to tell them the news! Neiva's cousins are thrilled.

Dad just looks and looks and looks at Sweet Neiva Wild with a big smile on his face: "Where did you come from Little One? Where did you come from? ...I have no idea, but you are here with us now!"

Jaime is the first to come visit the family in the hospital.

Dad starts explaining the world to Neiva, covering the family tree, the earth, and the night sky.

Monday January 13
Mom's co-workers from both her Labs come to visit Neiva in the hospital and are absolutely fascinated by her cuteness.

Dad loves ordering off the free hospital menu, the best being the Meatlover's Omelet and Roasted Colorado Potatoes. We love to eat in this family.

Neiva is a true citizen of science (Mom is so proud); she participates in a number of research studies.
Mom and Jaime take Neiva for a walk through the hospital. Dad tries to sleep but instead just misses his little girl.

Neiva meets her buddy Mason (who decides to snatch her hat) when Scott and Rhonda come to visit.
Dad loves to soothe Neiva with song. His hits include Baby Beluga (Baby Neiva), Bright Morning Stars, This Pretty Planet, and a suite of Mason Jennings. He really likes to listen to Be Here Now and Better Together.

Tuesday, January 14
Today is the Little Bugger's Due Date.

Heide and Kristin from Mom's Lab stop by to visit.

Dad and Neiva log their first skin to skin time. Neiva is so relaxed that she blows out her pants! Mom laughs so hard it hurts!

Mom manages her post-op pain swimmingly with only ibuprofen and acetaminophen, much to everyone's surprise (of course Dad already knows how tough Mom is).

Clouds move in and big beautiful snowflakes fall from the sky. Dad is excited to tell Neiva all about winter as they gaze out the window.

The family leaves the hospital after dinner. At first, Neiva tells Mom and Dad that she is not at all thrilled by her car seat. It turns out, though, that car riding immediately brings her sleep.

Wednesday, January 15
Neiva and Dad sprawl out on the living room floor during the dawn hours. Dad loves to listen to Neiva's breathing. Her first camp outing!

It is 45 degress and sunny in Golden, but still storming in the mountains.

Neiva is a big sensation on Facebook as Mom posts introductory posts. Much love from our family and friends all around the country.

Neiva little fingers clasp while feeding. Neiva and Mom are naturals! Dad helps by providing water, orange slices, and back rubs while keeping Neiva awake (bicycling legs, tickling the soles of her feet and thighs).
Mom starts making a lot of milk for Neiva, and takes to ice and pumping. We will never look at that bag of frozen peppers the same!

Accordingly, Dad walks down to Target to pick up some ice packs. He misses Neiva Wild so much!

Neiva and Dad video chat with Grandma and Grandpa A; Neiva shows off her big bright eyes.

Neiva is stunning! And not only her parents say so.

Neiva mystically moves her hands as she creates alternate universes. At other times she gives Mom and Dad the One-Eyed Wild look.

Thursday, January 16
After some time kangaroo napping in reverie, Dad becomes aware that Neiva's breathing exactly compliments his. When his chest expands with in breath, her tummy contracts with out breath. When her chest expands with in breath, Dad's tummy contracts with out breath.

Neiva gets outside in the sunlight for the first time. It is too bright to open her eyes.

Mom, Dad and Neiva visit Dr. Francine for the first check up and pass with flying colors, now gaining weight again.

Dad learns that a little fresh air on Neiva's bottom while changing diapers can lead to explosive results.

Dad makes Mom homemade chili and bread for dinner.

Neiva sports her fancy Rumparoos for the first time and is looking even cuter. (How is that even possible?)

The family Skypes with Grandma and Grandpa O for the first time, with Neiva completely zonked out.

Neiva turns five days old at 10:45 in the evening. Mom and Dad feel like they have known her for much much longer.

Mom and Dad tag team night duties to feed, diaper and calm Neiva, who has a harder time falling to sleep in the evening than during the morning. After a mid-night feeding, Neiva is out cold quicker than an Alberta clipper.

Neiva continues to sleep 3-4 hours between night feedings. She would surely sleep longer if Dad did not fade out her dreams by unwrapping her from the warmth of her cocoon.

Friday, January 17
Neiva sleeps next to Dad in her bassinet, the same bassinet that Mom and Grandma O slept in when they were babies. Dad likes to be able to rock and shush Neiva from bed, and to hear her breathing.

Dad cannot sleep. He would much rather watch and listen to his little girl dozing next to him. It is like a pre-dawn Christmas morning over and over again. They camp out on the floor in the morning again.

Mom tells Neiva about alveoli while breastfeeding. This leads somehow to an overview of androgyny, which becomes a talk about the silliness of societal gender norms. Duck pajamas are equally acceptable for either a little boy or a little girl, she says.

Reverend Eric stops by with a bag full of repurposed flannel wipes sewn with care by Jessa and Eli. They feel so smooth on baby's little bottom.

All agree that Neiva's full on fiery cry is completely endearing: Mahhhhhh! Meh!! Meh!! Meh!! Mahhhhh! So far the longest spell crying spell has been about 10 minutes. Beyond Liquid Gold and a fresh diaper, the Milk Shake and the Side Lying Jiggle are most effective.

Dad tells Neiva tales of adventure from his travel journal. They also discuss sledding.

Neiva discovers the mirror next to the changing table and is fascinated by the little person she sees over there.

Mom and Dad doze together in the afternoon sun on the living room floor while Neiva naps.

Kris and Melissa bring a meal over for Mom and Dad. Neiva's charm makes them all the more excited for their baby in April. They give Neiva the most amazing snowflake sweater pants.

The first washing of cloth diapers exceeds expectations; Our fancy new washing machine performs like a champ! And it sings.